Love. That tiny little word that holds so much meaning, so much emotion, so much heartbreak, so much beauty. Love is, as we know, shown in multiple ways. The love you have for your parents or guardians, the love you have for your spouse, your kids, and even yourself. It's shown and felt in different ways. But at the end of the day, each cup runneth over with the same amount of love. What that means is, we don't have to try and choose who we love more in our life. We have the same 100% amount of love for everyone in our lives. Even though that love is shown in different ways, the amount never has to change.
If there's one thing I could tell you, that I've learned about relationships, it's to never, ever let money come between you. Money is the greatest killer of relationships. Greed, financial hardships, transaction disputes. Charlie and I both refuse to argue about, well actually anything, but especially money. We handle our finances together. We budget together, talk about transactions, and if we do encounter a financial setback, we work through it together. I think that's a huge thing. When one person controls the finances it suddenly becomes a balance of power. There should never be a hierarchy in your relationship. Secondly, on the topic of money and relationships, do not get lost in the sea of materialistic items. A huge house can burn down. A nice car can end up in a car accident. And an engagement ring that you need a loan to pay for, can still fall down the garburator. You can't put a price tag on love. And if you feel like you have to, you need to do some self reflection. If you think that your partner will leave you if you don't buy them things every week, if you think you have to buy their love; then you need to look in the mirror and figure out why you don't value yourself enough to know that you are enough. I understand thinking you aren't good enough and that you suddenly have to go overboard to impress your partner so they won't leave. I have been there, and I was still dumped. So, that right there is proof that trying to sell your love to someone does not work. And the only one that ends up hurt is you. Once you start to value yourself, start realizing that you deserve someone that's gonna love you no matter what, that's when you'll be truly happy and find peace with yourself.
Someone once said to me "If you don't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?" When I first heard this, I brushed it off. But once I started finding value in myself, validation in my feelings and ideas, self respect, self determination, I realised they were right.
Once I learned to love myself I met the love of my life, who is everything and more that I deserve in a partner. So, if you haven't met the right person yet, I implore you to do some self reflection. I implore you to learn and feel some self love. Because you deserve it.
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